Saturna

yesterday i called someone to ask a question. i needed to suss something out. i received a text back saying that this person would call me back later. i never received a call back.

instead, many hours later i am asked by jason "did you call so-and-so? why?"

this really burns me up. and not really at all because of why i called, but because it reinforces a perception i have that some folks don't consider me to be my own person. it is as if i am seen to be an extension of my partner, or maybe a better word is addendum.

guess what?

i am my own person! i exist in my own body, i have my own ears and heart and brain! i would even venture so far as to say that i am an intelligent, caring, compassionate (and passionate) human being who pretty much rocks.

and guess what else?

i was this, long before i ever became involved with my partner. in fact, damn, that may have had just a little bit to do with the fact that someone you look up to chose to be with me in the first place. go figure.

and while you may not see me much, being that i have important tasks like raising a human being, i do in fact exist and have my own thoughts. so when i call you, maybe you should call me back, and resist to urge to assume that anyone on this earth is my spokesperson.

of course, said person does not read my website, so i will have to make this clear today in another way. and please know, i do not feel this is jason's fault in any way. rather, this is a danger inherent in being involved in any partnership, particularly those of the romantic sort.

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